Turning 30 Series: The Big 30

I have been looking forward to turning 30 since my 29th birthday - none of my friends have shared this excitement. 

Listening to women older than me, they have said time and time again that entering their thirties was the time period in their life when they said "This is who I am, you're either going to like it or you ain't gonna f****** like it."

My nearest and dearest have known i've had this mentality for a while yet, so this will be no surprise. But personally turning 30 signals a new freedom, a new confidence and a new sense of womanhood that I have been counting down to. I haven't (yet) given much thought as to why I view 30 as some sort of permission slip to living and it's something I want to explore over the next 10 months, but I definitely think getting married has something to do with it!

So i'll be revisiting this topic, when I have discovered something new...

xoxo

"Stay Cute Baby Girl" - Letting Myself Go

In my world, it's not always referred to letting yourself go. In my world its called "Falling off" a.k.a " Guuuurl, what happened to you? You fell off!"

I feel all the way off last year, climbed back up in August and then fell off a cliff! 

Most of the comments I received rotated around the fact that I was a newlywed (Had my traditional marriage in August, the church wedding is a few months away) and I couldn't let myself fall apart now that I've nabbed myself a husband. To be fair the thought did cross my mind, but I had so much going on that my looks were the last of my worries. 

This year (only 6 days in haha!) what has made me want to 'fix up, look sharp' isn't looking good for the hubby, although that's a definite plus for him. It's looking good for me. 

A colleague of mine, who is also a newlywed and I are both suffering the same dilemma, but we both want to look good to feel good. So now we are both accountable to each other for making sure everyday we are insta-ready. Although 2015 was one of the best years of my life, it was also the most challenging by a mile. I had many moments where I was so down and depressed that I didn't get out of bed for weeks at a time. Now that God has graced me to get to the other side, I don't want to do anything out of obligation ("If you don't look good for your man another woman will"), I am doing things that make me feel good. My relationship makes me feel good, my job makes me feel like the biggest boss this side of the river, my church makes me feel good, even in correction. My friendships, my purchases, and indeed my hair and make-up all are done to make ME feel good. As selfish as that sounds, these days I am so 'full' pouring out to my friends and loved ones is a hell of a lot easier than it was before.

So if I ever fall off again, you better believe, I'll be feeling good doing it!

Have a great 'feel good' day!

xoxo

A photo posted by Rose Omame-Frempong (@maamerose) on Jan 6, 2016 at 4:33am PST